Contest RealityHubs: A Quote That Has Positive Impact On Your Life
The quote that I would like to review is : It’s not always about you.
I was told this quote and this as a young teenager and understanding it has helped me deal with many situations in life.
The Story:
A teenager and his grandfather were stopped at a restaraunt on a highway on a long trip. The teenager was tired and hungry, the restaurant was empty, but the sign on the front desk said “Seat yourself, the waitress will be right with you.” So then entered, sat down at the first table and watched the waitress who was standing near the back talking to the cook. The two sat there for a few minutes, which seemed like an hour to the teenager, who soon started complaining to his grandfather that the service was so slow and that the waitress was ignoring them on purpose. The teenager’s anger slowly simmered to a boil and soon he was furious. He was also very upset with his grandfather who didn’t seem bothered at all by the poor service. His grandfather calmly asked him to relax and said you don’t know what’s going on and neither do I. But I assume it’s a good reason and I am waiting patiently. The teenager began to think it was because the waitress didn’t like them and was purposely ignoring them. He was looking at her and getting ready to yell at her when she arrived. The grandfather noticed that he was angry and calmly told him not to speak until the grandfather spoke and insisted that the boy smile and be polite when the waitress arrived.
When the waitress arrived she said she was sorry a dozen times. She hadn’t heard them come in and she apologized and said she hoped they hadn’t waited long. The grandfather told her they hadn’t been there long and that they were fine. He then asked her how she was and found out she had been up late the night before caring for her sick child. The waitress proceeded to take their orders and provided the best service they had ever experienced. The teenager felt sad when he learned about the waitresses sick child. He was also embarrassed. He told the grandfather how much he admired his calmness and asked how can I be like you grandfather? The reply was short and simple. While we all may naturally feel the world revolves around us and that everything which happens is directed specifically towards us, that’s not true. Many times the things going on in life are happening regardless of your presence. If you remember that it’s not always about you or because of you. You will be less likely to take things personally, both good and bad. There are many reasons people may be late or rude or in a hurry that have something to do with what’s going on in their life. Their wife or child could be sick, they may have been fired, their car may have broke down on the way to work or as in this case the waitress was tired and worried about her child, so she didn’t hear you come in. Remember it’s not always about you.
Conclusion:
I was told this as a young teenager and understanding it has helped me deal with a lot of different situations in my life. There are many times in life when I have encountered people who seemed unusually angry to small slights, and later learned they were having a bad day before I arrived and I just happened to “walk into the storm” as I would call it, or what my parents called “wrong place and wrong time”. I learned that it’s not always about me, but more about what’s happening in other peoples lives. It taught me to be sensitive to or perceptive of the emotional state of other people around me. I have learned that if I am dealing with people who are happy, there is a great chance our interactions will go well, but if they are sad or mad, I should avoid them or keep our interactions brief. No one wants to bump into a young man who just got fired from his job or broke up with his girlfriend as any slight could become a major incident. This is why being aware of the emotional state of people around me is part of my “situational awareness” and “threat assessment” which I feel is an important everyday tool and in some ways depending on the environment a necessary tool for survival. Angry people are far more dangerous the happy people and large angry people should be given a wide berth. I often see people listening to their phones or engrossed in their social media while traveling the subway get into trouble because they aren’t paying attention to their surroundings and bump into angry people or fail to perceive what I view as clear threats around them. Additionally, I also use this emotional assessment of my coworkers and superiors, as a form of “receptivity indicator” when deciding whether to propose new ideas to people, as they are much more receptive when they are happy, versus when they are sad or mad. I think it is helpful for everyone to be always aware of the emotional state of your friends, family and strangers around you. I think this is a special people skill processed by successful people in all walks of life.
✍🏼 By Shortsegments.
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